Today I have a guest contributor who wants to share some personal experiences but likes to remain anonymous. Be blessed with the following words.
DEBRIS: Scattered remains of something destroyed; the ruins of a broken-down structure.
Watch and pray, that ye enter not into temptation: The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak (Matthew 26:41).
I had never had to think twice about whether my stand for sexual purity was in-depth, my sphere was sane enough to accommodate it. I was just an undergraduate and never had so much to say around boy matters- it wasn’t my focus or some cheap emotional blackmail that got some ladies down(I wasn’t always nice with words when I hear or read about it, how gullible? I will exclaim!) I can’t fall for it or so I thought. But I began to consider this issue of why Christians (who knew better than to allow themselves become victims of this mess) are the easiest prey when I had a near death experience in this regard. I was away from school interning with a company and really had a first class experience of some hot chase from well meaning guys if you may, but whose values are totally wrong! There was one particular guy who caught my fancy. From online chatting to onsite meetup which ended up in his house, I narrowly escaped SEX- the act! But not without some compromise too gross to imagine or even describe. Memories of the one night stand are poignant reminders of how careless overflow of emotions, self induced inability to say No, shallow thinking and unaccountability can destroy! I had to go through rigorous soul searching geared towards healing from the experience to answer, WHAT MADE ME SO VUNERABLE?
Having established some points that can aid fighting chances against sexual sin in the previous weeks, it is also wise to consider salient factors that we mayn’t be paying attention to. Not everyone intends to have sex from the outset, one thing always… Click To Tweet
?Exposures: the influence of the things we allow into our minds for thinking cannot be overemphasized. As a fact, that’s who we are (Prov. 23:7). Check what you feed your mind on even if they aren’t captioned pornographic. The design of Pornography is that it leaves you with an imagery to ruminate on and it thrives in the secrecy of it. Our daily lives are built around the things that can aid falling into sin if care isn’t taken. Most content will always be tilted towards sex or its close affliate that will most time leave your mind thinking about sex. Bible enjoins us to set our affections…(Colossians 3:2). You can consciously choose what you give your ear and eye time. Your defences are broken down each time you allow those thoughts penetrate you. Even though at the moment, it doesn’t seem so, it only accelerates your fall by urging you along. James 1:13-15
?Selfconfidence: 1cor 1:29-31 Confidence in the flesh… sometimes you don’t really know what you are up to until you come close to it. A lot of people are quick to say, I am sexually pure because they have not been tested in that aspect. You hear things like I just want to visit him, I won’t sleep over. I need privacy to talk to you, all these I’s. Please do not be confident in the flesh especially when it comes to sex matters. Bible says to FLEE.
?Boundaries: to thine own self be true. Know yourself. Set boundaries for yourself even if they are strict rules. It’s good to lose friends if keeping them lays unrighteous demand on you. It’s okay. Determine not to agree to seeing his new apartment or go for the hangout if you won’t be able to make it back home the same night and lots more that breaks your wall of defence in bits.
?Understand yourself: Wisdom is the principal thing, therefore get wisdom and in all your getting, get understanding. Proverbs 4:7. Discover your love language and let no one bamboozle you with vain words or act. Check intents and value systems. Do not compromise your decisions and try to feel among or gain acceptability.
The way forward?
?Confession: Confess Gods words till it overtakes you because there’s a huge distance between what the head believes and what the heart is convinced about. Leave room for no tussle between who you were and are now. Allow the word of God to get so deep in your heart. Be renewed in the spirit of your mind.
?Accountability: be submitted to someone about your moves or decisions. Such can even be a trusted friend who can instruct. Most importantly, the holy spirit. The word of God tells us what not to, holy spirit tells us how not to. He sure will nudge you before you make wrong choices and even while at it or after, help you to retrace your steps. He also will heal soul wounds and help you regain your steps back to God.
?Pray and trust God always for your life: Acknowledge that you are weaker than you thought and this should make you submissive to God.Then trust in God with all your heart and lean not on your understanding. It is God who is able to keep us from falling!
Talk to you again next week.
(On behalf of anonymous)
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